1   From the speech of a person, we can see the inner pattern and wisdom of this person.

Have you ever experienced prickly chat?
I mean well, but you are bitter,
Such conversations are bound to be uncomfortable.

2  Only with sincerity and kindness can people respect you

Some people always like to set the steps on purpose to show their superiority. Little did you know that when you do this, you have raised other people and belittled yourself.
At one of the golden horse awards, huang bo came on as a guest, wearing what looked like pajamas. His co-host, cheng yu-ling, asked him, "how do you come to the awards show in your pajamas?"
"Because I often come to the golden horse awards, and every time I come, I feel like I'm at home.
Although huang bo's appearance level is not high, but emotional intelligence, intelligence is not inferior. No one is stupid, no one is fooled by your true or false feelings, no one can be deceived by the gaps between your words and the expression of your words.

3   He who does not know how to shut up will be punished sooner or later.

It is said that when zhu yuanzhang became emperor, zhang SAN, who grew up together as a child, came to the capital to seek official and semi-official positions.
Zhang SAN saw zhu yuanzhang, with tears in his eyes, and even called "myna", not stopped by guards, almost wanted to rush up and embrace the emperor. Zhu yuanzhang frowned, read in childhood on the sentiment, and asked a casual: "do not come?"
Unexpectedly, zhang SAN opened his chatterbox and could not hold it any longer: "myna, you are really eight face power and prestige now! When we were herding cows together, we were beaten by the landlord. We eat together, how much abuse, insult! I remember one time when we hid in the reed bushes and cooked the stolen beans in a bamboo jar. Before they were cooked, several people rushed to eat them and broke the jar "
Zhang SAN has not finished speaking, sitting in the throne room of zhu yuanzhang was angry, drink a, ordered zhang SAN immediately out to behead.
The identity of zhu yuanzhang is different from that of the past. However, zhang SAN did not realize this. He did not leave his speech without leaving his mouth.

4   Emotionally intelligent people never put people in an awkward position.

Having interviewed professor Lin, Yang asked him if today's achievement met his father's expectations.
To Yang LAN's surprise, he suddenly became silent and began to cry uncontrollably.
It turns out that Lin yifu, a young man, came to the mainland from Taiwan alone.
If at that time Yang LAN for the show effect, could have continued to question Lin yifu's feelings, but Yang LAN chose silence. Her silence was right, as was her respect for the guests, giving them room to buffer their emotions.
It is better to keep silent rather than boast, which is a kind of respect to others and a kind of accomplishment to be a man.
High level of speaking: good manners, high eq, never put people in an awkward position.
Whether as a lover or a friend, it is a very warm existence.
The highest level of conversation is to make each other comfortable.

Conclusion: only by communicating with your heart and sincerity, and speaking appropriately and appropriately, can you enter into the other person's soul and feel comfortable and at ease. Your personal charm will also come from this.